How useful are lawyers during divorce???

Lawyers are in it for the money, the more you two fight the longer the divorce drags on and the more money they get. You should sit down with your spouse and talk through it again, when you come to an agreement you are both happy with you should also agree not to take further advice from your lawyers. Your money would be better spent on your children than to lawyers. It sounds like you were on good terms, so there is a good chance you can talk this through.